To the future girlfriend of my son

Future girlfriend of my son! You are attracted to someone very special to me. Someone who when he came in to my life changed me forever. He is a special man to me and always will be. I want you to know that I have done my best to raise him as a well rounded and completely accepting person. He is kind, considerate, has a big heart and a healthy respect for everyone regardless of their race or gender. Know now he will always treat you with respect.

I have done my best to make sure he knows it’s good to love, to laugh, to cry, to feel sad, to feel pain, to feel happy. I am sure when he loves he will wear his heart on his shoulder completely exposed and wanting to know where your relationship will go? This I cannot help him with except to be there for him.

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As you both try to understand being boyfriend/girlfriend mistakes will be made and that’s a guarantee! Please do not make a public spectacle of the mistakes either of you no matter how angry you are at the time. I do know my son and he will listen to what you have to say, he will hear what you have to say and he will understand what you have to say and I hope you can do the same with him.

I do have some expectations of you as his girlfriend and they are not much to ask. For the time you are with him be it a week or a lifetime treat him with respect, do not berate him as he will not berate you, do not hit him as he will not hit you, do not take his feelings for granted as he will not take yours for granted, you do not need to make him jealous of you as he will have those feelings irregardless and most of all love him for the time you are with him.

If he chooses to bring you home, I know you must be very special to him and you will always be welcome while together.

Girlfriend

 

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  1. We all live in hope that there will be more good men raised by other good men – and women – and will do my part to raise a girl who will respect and deserve such a man!

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    • πŸ™‚ We can only give them the tools to respect everyone as they respect themselves, I have done my part with my children and that’s the best I can do for them and the world. It will change, just not as fast as we would like!

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  2. To my favourite daddy blogger, A.K.A the future father-in-law of my daughter,

    Never change. You have the best outlook when it comes to raising your boys. I hope that more men (and women) will catch on to the fact that teaching our children to respect one and other as equal human beings is probably the most important thing we can do.

    Well done on one of your best posts yet! πŸ™‚

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    • Thank you very much πŸ™‚ ! I won’t be changing anytime soon. I have my beliefs and my ways and they work well for me! I am glad you enjoy my posts πŸ™‚

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    • Thank you! I put my heart out there on that one! πŸ™‚ I always write with my heart and how I feel, but that is a special one. I am writing one for my daughter now and that one is really hard because I want to say similar things, but it hits my heart in a different way.

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  3. How lovely πŸ™‚ I think that (don’t shoot me people) learning to respect women actually holds more sway if it comes from Dad or father figure in a boy’s life. Your son is a lucky boy x

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    • Thank you very much! This post was a special one to me! πŸ™‚ I have 2 boys and it was written for them both!

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    • Thank you! It is my favourite post yet! That one means a lot to me! πŸ™‚

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  4. What a great post, these are such important lessons. This should go in the Dadding handbook (if such a thing exists….)

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    • Thank you very much! I am proud of this post! πŸ™‚ I am actually speechless to what you have commented! Thank you again!

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    • Thank you very much! πŸ™‚ All the great comments I have received have left me speechless! I am glad you enjoyed it! πŸ™‚

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  5. Keep thinking this way, I wish every parent thought this or maybe they do but its amazing. What a great post. You sound like you are raising find gentlemen. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

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    • Thank you so much for the nice comment! πŸ™‚ This post came from the heart and they are both kind loving boys with big hearts! πŸ™‚ The response on this post has been amazing! I never thought it would be so well received! All that have responded have really truly and honestly left me speechless! πŸ™‚ Thank you for the opportunity to link up!

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  6. Ahhh this is just so lovely. I can imagine your son bringing the special lady home and you remembering this post.

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    • Thank you! Yes I can too! I know it will go through my mind this letter. I am writing one for my daughter too. It will be posted next week.

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  7. Such a touching and heartfelt letter. I agree with each point and I hope to raise my son in a similar – will share my hubby πŸ™‚ xx

    Thanks for linking up to #AllAboutYou

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    • Thank you! So far it is my favourite post! I am glad you enjoyed it πŸ™‚

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  8. This is a beautiful letter, and I can say that you are raising your son to be a real gentleman!

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    • Thank you! I have 2 boys and they are both good kids! I try my best with them

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  9. aww another great post made me all teary hope they follow the advice make sure they all have a link to the post for years to come! a great idea i would not know where to start.

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    • Thank you! I hope they do too!I have given them everything I can now including advice. I hope they use it wisely!

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  10. This is a beautiful letter. You are doing a wonderful job, and teaching your sons very important lessons. Respect is vital in everything. Thank you so much for sharing with #ThePrompt x

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  11. I really love this.

    This is exactly what we want for our children when we are not ‘the one’ anymore.

    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

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  12. Love this! To mine I’ll add, “If my son ever disrespects you, please come to me so I can knock some sense into him and make sure such behavior doesn’t become a habit!”

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  13. So beautiful I am sharing this to my page. You are raising a good man in your house!

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  14. Such a heartfelt post, it must of taken allot to write this post. It’s hard for any parent to think of their children growing up and entering the unknown. thank you for hosting #Wineandboobs

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    • I haven’t had to deal with that yet luckily ☺️ my eldest is 16 and no one yet ☺️

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  15. Wow what a lovely post. I don’t have boys, just 2 girls but I would love that my girls find each a boy with a dad like you. πŸ˜‰

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  16. Beautiful! As a mom of 2 boys and 1 girl, I have a post brewing in my mind about how we, as society, are responsible for raising kind and respectful boys (you know, like not the kind who rape unconscious girls) and we also need to teach our daughters to be respectful of themselves and be safe. Your stuff is great!

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  17. excellent!!
    I try my best to raise my son to respect women. But I also need him to know that he deserves the same respect from women as well!!
    Awesome letter!
    #wineandboobs

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  18. It’s a scary thing for our children to leap out into this world without us. I have two girls…so I can only hope that when they reach that age that they will be picking boys that have these values. Great post πŸ™‚ #wineandboobs

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    • Thank you ☺️ I have one for my daughter written and posted too! Want to see it? It’s more of a rough draft that I will add to and take away from as she gets closer to dating ☺️

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  19. This is a beautiful letter and your son sounds like an absolute catch. Any girl will be very lucky to spend any part of their life with him. #wineandboobs πŸ™‚

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  20. Aw this is such a beautiful post, wonder if in the future a girlfriend (or two!) might just stumble upon it! You never know…x

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  21. This is such a touching post! Wow. you really are a dad with a big heart. Many people get caught up in the here and now, but this is just such a lovely post. I hope your son (and his future wife) read and appreciate this

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  22. A great post and a great idea. I hope the future girlfriends appreciate it too.

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  23. The Mother says – What a great letter. I love posts like this. It seems that you’ve instilled some amazing values into your son :0 #wineandboobs

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  24. This is a fab, heart felt post and isn’t it amazing thinking when they’re older they, and future potential girlfirends might actually read it too. #wineandboobs

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  25. Another great letter and your son will make a great boyfriend/husband one day and she’ll be one lucky girl. Thank you so much for sharing with #WellbeingWednesday

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    • I hope so I will be reminding him and thank you for hosting I love this linky #wellbeingwednesday

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  26. Such a lovely letter, I’m not ready to think about my son bringing home a girl friend although I know the time will come. X

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  27. What a lovely post, I can only hope that when my girls are of an age where they are interested in settling down, they will do so with a son like yours who has been bought up to know that women should be respected as they respect themselves, such a heartwarming post! #wineandboobs

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