I don’t want you to be me!

I want you to be a better than me! I want you to take the things from me that you like about me and keep them if you like, but be a better person than me! Some of the things that are important to me is that you make better decisions, set better examples and have more patience.

I have written many letters to you three, but this may be the one I want you to take to heart the most.

Tell the truth – Now I am not just talking about lying. You can also not be telling the truth by simply not saying anything. This is a hard lesson to learn, because there are times you just don’t want to say anything and keep quiet. The truth of that is not saying anything can be as bad as telling a lie even if it will hurt someone else it will hurt more if it comes out and it wasn’t from you.

Be patient – They say patience is a virtue and it truly is. Although I know I can be very impatient and on edge at times I try hard and it’s a battle that rages within. Take words and situations with a grain of salt and do not expect immediate results. Sometimes the best things in life are well worth waiting for.

Speak up – Do not hide your voice! I have raised you to use your words and speak to be heard. Even though I may not practice this myself with everyone and I prefer to keep quiet and get on with things, this isn’t what I want for you. Things that you need to say and don’t will eat you up inside and change you as a person, change relationships sometimes it can change everything you feel inside depending on the extent of what you keep quiet about.


Author: Modern dad

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  1. Such a good post ! Definitely don’t want my kids to turn out like me great post idea

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  2. Great post. I think most of us want our kids to be better than us. #wineandboobs

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  3. words of wisdom. patience and understanding are the two things that I hope my daughter embraces the most

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  4. Lovely post. You are so right we don’t want our kids to be us. My boys are so uniquely themselves and that is an amazing thing to see. #wineandboobs

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  5. Great advice for the kids Rod, but you shouldn’t discourage them from being like you. You are a great person & father – they’d be lucky to turn out like you! #wineandboobs

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  6. A great dad post. That’s always the goal, to have our children be better than us and communicate with us #wineandboobs

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  7. Awwww, that’s lovely. You’re kids are lucky to have you as their Dad. I think I would probably write the same for mine and add in about being a ‘nice person’, I love nice people and it seems like a boring thing to be but really it’s the best thing you can be #wineandboobs

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  8. Such a good post. I always tell mine to aim for the sky and be whatever they want to be #wineandboobs

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  9. Great advice Rod! Too many imitations running around the world I tell ya πŸ˜‰ By the sounds of it…you already have great kids. Thanks for hosting #wineandboobs.

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    • Absolutely and if they want to imitate me I better be a better person πŸ˜‰

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  10. If your kids inherit your integrity and kind nature, they will be lucky. I think it’s so important to teach kids how to speak up…as an adult now, I constantly feel like I’m not heard and although a lot of that is to do with my general nature, some of it I think is to do with not being pushed to always speak up as a child.

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    • It’s an important one for sure! I don’t want them to just clam up and not be heard! πŸ˜€ thank you for your kind remark πŸ˜€

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