Mum guilt is a very real thing and I have finally wrapped my head around exactly how it works (or at least how I see it works and you can correct me if I’m wrong?)! Mum guilt is a never ending circle feeling guilty! If you give too much attention to one child you feel guilty that you haven’t been giving enough attention to the other or if you give your children all your attention you feel guilty because you have been ignoring getting things done around the house, if you do all the house work and get everything done in the house you feel guilty because you haven’t spent time with the kids and if you have been eating out a lot you feel guilty about not making proper meals at home.
Ok so I think that’s enough to explain how I see it and how I understand it. There is almost never a point where a mum does not feel guilty for very long and I would like to say something…
YOU ARE ENOUGH!!!!!!!!
We all go through that! we all have our moments! We all feel guilt! Especially when it comes to our children. It’s all because we want the best for them and we don’t want them to feel that we don’t love them. All it takes though is a look, a smile and saying “love you” to them when you need to get things done. If you are spending more time with one child maybe because of homework or whatever else let the other child know that as soon as your done you will read a book together and have them go pick a book out, but don’t take it out on yourself as you are only one person and you cannot be everywhere all the time, doing everything for everyone and I know this because I am that way, I have done it now for so long it just feels that it’s supposed to be this way!
So the next time you are feeling mum guilt remember this! Your children will always be there, the housework will always be there, the meals will always be there and so will you! You will wake up every morning and do your best each day to get the things done you need to get done! Spend as much time with the kids as you can! Make as many healthy proper meals as you can and that’s all that can be expected of you.
I would totally love to know your thoughts and feelings on this? Please comment below!